OMG! 8 weeks left and I feel so ill prepared for this new baby. I think with Oliver I already had his nursery decorated. We at least have the crib set up and the mattress. But I guess I should take off the plastic from the mattress and maybe put the fitted sheet and crib skirt on. I still need to wash the few new baby outfits my parents and in-laws bought. I also need to go through my son’s old clothes and sort those away. There’s just so much to do and I’m just so tired and unmotivated to do any of it. So different from the first.
Everyone knows that being a stay at home parent is tough. It is often a thankless job that has horrible pay and little to no vacation. If anyone ever had a job with these benefits they would immediately start looking for a new one.! My first job out of college I worked 60+ hours a week, rarely got any appreciation from my clients let alone my supervisors, got depressed if I calculated my salary to an hourly rate, but at least I got ok, flexible vacation. Fast forward to today, and now I think that job was a cake walk!!! I know that I’m not the first (and certainly not the last) to write/complain/vent about my choice to stay at home, but I’m going to anyway.
The last two weeks or so has been super hard on me. On top of a demanding 2 year old, I’ve been having severe pubic bone pain and sometimes your normal back pain. If you’ve never had pubic bone pain while pregnant (lucky you!) or don’t know what I’m talking about you can read about it here. I’ve gotten a maternity belt to help, but at the end of the day I’m always in pain. And to top it all off, my husband had friends visiting from London and Australia. Ordinarily I wouldn’t care and would actually encourage him to have fun with the boys, but like I said it has been hard caring for Oliver. My husband would usually do the night time bath and put him to sleep, which is super helpful because it’s hard for me to hunch over the bath and lift him, etc. But having to do that for most of the week took it’s toll on me, and of course no ounce of gratitude from my husband who strolled in at 2am most nights.
So last night I was feeling a bit down because again I was left with night duties (husband had his normal Thursday night soccer game) and Oliver was just extra cranky/terrible twos. But when we were in his room he wanted to cuddle. That hasn’t happened in ages. It’s normally peace out mom when all mom wants is an extra second of cuddles at drop off for preschool or randomly during the day. But we cuddled and suddenly he was asleep on my shoulder. This hasn’t happened in at least a year (maybe more?)!!! If I didn’t have to pee so badly I would have relished that moment for an extra 5 minutes (who knows, probably all night). It was such a sweet moment; one that I really needed. I needed that reminder of why I stay at home; to have these moments where my son can be extra affectionate and seeks comfort from me. I needed that moment because these moments will happen less frequently and then one day will just completely stop–he’ll stop asking for cuddles, he won’t give you kisses on demand, he won’t randomly tell you, “I love you” every hour. So no matter how hard and tired and annoyed I get, I have to remember that it is all worth it in the end for these small jewels–these sweet moments.
So this is probably a bit presumptuous, but I made a dinner reservation for 8 days after my due date. I really want a nice steak dinner, and the restaurant I made a reservation for is impossible to get a respectable dinner reservation a month in advance. Even now (2 months ahead) there were slim pickings. So I just bit the bullet and did it. Hopefully this baby girl will come some what on time so I don’t have the cancel the reservation. Less than 9 weeks until our world gets turned upside down (for the better, I hope)!!!
So our house is fairly small (although pretty big by SF standards). Because I’m at the stage of pregnancy where nesting kicks in, we rearranged the living room. This is huge since I was too tired to really care about how things were laid out when we first moved in (Oliver was almost 4 months old then). So I left it up to my husband to do the layout, and let’s just say it wasn’t ideal in the long run. Anyhoo, we moved the furniture around two weeks ago to maximize the amount of room we have, which also means we created a designated play area for Oliver, and soon baby dos. But the state of the play area was kind of gross.
When we moved to SF, most of our furniture we bought from a friend who was moving to Singapore. Needless to say, we inherited A LOT of “bachelor” furniture. Dan argued that it saved us money and he also didn’t anticipate us staying for more than a year. Almost 2 years later, we are still left with a few undesirable pieces in SF. So the first thing to go was this ugly entertainment center that, thankfully, the Salvation Army gladly came over to pick up. Their website said that they would reject any furniture they thought wasn’t good enough (something like that), and I thought that this thing would certainly be rejected. So I was quite happy and relieved they hauled it away!
I absolutely love the prints I bought on Etsy from Niko And Lily. They aren’t too kiddish for a shared space with adults. I bought them already matted because I knew that Ikea frames come with mats that are irregular, and it would have been a pain in the butt to try to make them fit. You can buy the prints without the mats and probably go to another shop for the frames, and probably save more money that way. But it was just easiest for me to go this route since I already had the frames. FYI, the frames are the Ikea Ribba frames and they fit perfectly!
I also like how we are able to use Oliver’s chair, after it was on hiatus the last year (I took Oliver’s monthly photos in this chair when he was first born.). Even though he can’t “read” on his own, he will sometimes sit in his chair and look at the books. Hopefully it will be a true reading nook in the future. And the chair is awesome because adults can sit in it too, and it’s light and portable enough that we can move it around the house. The chair is fromPottery Barn Kids.
The one thing I still need to add are bookends. I haven’t found the right bookends for the space that are cheap enough (i.e., <$20). If you pay close attention to the books that are sitting on top of the shelf, they are a mix of books for when Oliver is older and some cooking books. I’m looking for bookends that aren’t too childish or sophisticated. So that is still in the works. Hopefully I’ll find what I’m looking for before baby dos comes.
So the new and improved play area! Hooray! Next up, a gallery wall. GASP!!!
So I should mention that we did feel the earthquake here in San Francisco a few days ago. It was considerable enough to wake up my husband and I at 3:30am, although I feel like the earthquake I felt back in Virginia in 2011 was worse (maybe cause it was longer?). We had no damage to our home, our little monster slept through it, and my husband easily went back to sleep (I, however, had to go pee and any pregnant woman knows how that goes). Many of our friends here, including long time San Franciscans, said that it was a big earthquake.
The next morning had me thinking about the true safety of our home. We have our earthquake supplies to last us three days. But we don’t have any of our furniture tethered to the wall or anything. If this earthquake happened in the daytime and was just half a magnitude bigger, who knows what would have happened to my son with the furniture. I mean we have our normal baby proofing in place like plug covers and gates, and I did make sure that there’s nothing hanging over his bed. So I quickly went on Amazon and bought this, this, and this (because you can never have too many first aid kits). Hopefully we won’t have any more significant earthquakes any time soon, but if we do we’ll be more prepared.